Monday, February 18, 2013
We Should Ask For Help
When it has been 10 days of vomit and no sleep, I feel completely unable to make a coherent decision. Should we call the doctor? Should I send him to a birthday party? Should I leave the house ever again?
It’s not necessarily helpful to go on facebook either because people answer the questions you have. But they have no context. Facebook isn’t about seeing how your friends are doing. It’s about tooting your own horn. Let’s just be honest.
It’s these times that really develop you. Do I go and risk looking like a crazy mom-fool in the ER for frequent vomiting or do I stay at home watching my sick child? Will I feel better if I take him in or will I feel stupid? Does it matter if I feel stupid?
I don’t think so, but you still wonder.
Until you go in and realize that it’s okay to get help. That’s all you are doing when you are calling the doctor or going to the ER. You need help. And no one but you can decide when you need to get help.
Sure, if nothing is wrong, then you may not get the help that you need, but at least you received a professional opinion. That in itself is helpful. So you still get helped.
Asking for help isn’t always about asking for a favor. There are people in our communities whose sole purpose to help you do something you can’t do: Teachers, firefighters, police officers, postal workers, doctors, bakers (for that birthday cake you never got around to making). We don’t have to do everything on our own.
We don’t have to be people who can do it all. In fact, we can’t do it all. And it’s okay to look “stupid” because that thing that makes us feel like an idiot needs to be done by someone else this time.
And maybe the next time, too.